Helping or Enabling?Many people confuse their intentions to help another with enabling behavior. This article will discuss the difference between helping and en
Comparing Ourselves to OthersIf you want to feel miserable, then I would recommend that you “compare” yourself to someone else. But, why would I want to do that? You
VentingIs there a purpose to venting? This is a question I have been considering. I've asked some mentors, friends, and family their thoughts on th
Yes, and...Instead of saying "yes, but...", saying "yes, and..." may really help improve the connection in your conversations with others.
Self-judgement How we talk to ourselves may greatly impact how we speak and act towards others. Transforming your self-judgment is key to improving your
Did you make a "mistake"? How to express regrets...I invite you to take a moment and think of the last "mistake" you consider yourself making. How did you respond to the person impacted by i
Connection Request: Phrases to ask for a reflection or responseThe practice of the connection request has been a difficult one for me to integrate into my conversations. The "dump and run" approach was m
Interrupting SkillsSo how could I handle a situation when someone is talking too much or not letting me have an opportunity for input? Connect internally to
Stop being a glass...Become a LakeAn aging Hindu master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, t
I have to vs. I choose toA small rephrasing of the "I have to..." to "I choose to...because I value..." really embodies the self-responsibility that NVC teaches.
There is no "I" in empathy. That is sympathy.What is empathy? It is placing full attention on YOU as a unique person and what is alive in YOU right now. From my experience, this tremend
Interdependence & CompromiseWe are all interdependent, and our choices as human beings impact one another. If my personal needs are met but the needs I am holding with
W.A.I.T. = Why am I talking?By taking a moment to "W.A.I.T" and ask myself, "why am I talking?" I can take that moment to become aware of my own needs and the needs of
The Ego What is the purpose of the ego? I like to think of the ego as this overprotective bodyguard who ends up making awkward situations due to his
My Perspective, Your Perspective"None of us live in an objective world, but instead in a subjective world that we ourselves have given meaning to. The world you see is diff
Book Review: French Women Don't Get FatVariety is the spice of life! Unfortunately, repeatedly eating the same foods creates boredom and may contribute to overeating.
Am I too competitive? Humans love competition. They have from the beginning of time. This is evident with the multi-billion dollar pro sports industry. Participat
What I learned from a failed adoptionMy husband and I experienced a failed infant adoption a couple of weeks ago. I wanted to write this before I forget the details of what this